Girlfriend, Boyfriend, Friendship, Zina, Lodge As Well As Islam

HAVING FRIENDS, GIRLFRIEND AND BOYFRIEND IN ISLAM:

“Close friends, that 24-hour interval (Day of Judgment) volition endure enemies to each other, except for the righteous (who guard against evil).”

[Surah Az-Zukhruf (The Gold Adornment) (43:67)]

According to this poesy of Quran human being or women are non allowed to possess got whatsoever type of friend (male or female) who teaches bad habits or promotes for haram activities. On the Day of Judgment they volition endure enemies of each other.

“And Allah is most knowing nearly your faith. You [believers] are of 1 another. So get married them amongst the permission of their people [Guardian] together with give them their due compensation [Maher] according to what is acceptable. [They should be] chaste, neither [of] those who commit unlawful intercourse randomly nor those who convey [secret] lovers.”

[Surah An-Nisa’ (The Women) (4:25)]

This poesy clearly says non to possess got fellow (secret lover) together with also non to commit unlawful intercourse (i.e. intercourse amongst anyone other than married adult man is unlawful (haram)) together with believer should convey permission of guardian together with give Maher to bride together with marry.

Aishah narrated that: "The Messenger of Allah said: "Whichever adult woman married without the permission of her Wali her union is invalid, her union is invalid, her union is invalid. If he entered into her, therefore the Mahr is for her inwards lieu of what he enjoyed from her individual part. If they disagree, therefore the Sultan is the Wali for 1 who has no Wali."

“The Prophet said, "Whenever a human being is lonely amongst a adult woman the Devil makes a third.”

It non permissible for a human being together with women to sit down together but amongst their married adult woman or married adult man or Mahram. This hadith also prevent the dating amongst fellow or girlfriend.

[Hadith – Ahmad together with Al-Tirmidhi 3118, Narrated past times Umar ibn al-Khattab]

PUNISHMENT IN THIS WORLD ACCORDING TO ISLAM FOR PRE-MARITAL INTERCOURSE (ZINA):

“The [unmarried] adult woman or [unmarried] human being establish guilty of sexual intercourse - lash each 1 of them amongst a hundred lashes, together with do non endure taken past times compassion for them inwards the faith of Allah, if you lot should believe inwards Allah together with the Last Day. And allow a grouping of the believers witness their punishment.”

[An-Nur (The Light) (24:2)]

Abu Hurairah (May Allah endure pleased amongst him) said: The Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “Allah has written the real portion of Zina which a human being volition indulge in. There volition endure no escape from it. The Zina of the optic is the (lustful) look, the Zina of the ears is the listening (to voluptuous songs or talk), the Zina of the natural language is (the licentious) speech, the Zina of the manus is the (lustful) grip, the Zina of the feet is the walking (to the identify where he intends to commit Zina), the catch yearns together with desires together with the individual parts approve all that or disapprove it (ie. therefore the individual business office either acts upon this or it does not).'”

[Hadith - Bukhari, 11/26; Muslim, 2046]

“Zina is 1 of the forbidden deeds, 1 of the most serious major sins (kabaa'ir) afterwards shirk (associating partner amongst Allah) together with killing.”

[Al-Furqan (The Criterion, The Standard) 25:68-70)]

But still, nosotros possess got sisters telling us, "But I love him!" 

• She says, "But still, you lot don't know how I feel, together with Allah knows my heart. I merely love him therefore much together with he loves me too".

OK - Here are some facts, honey sister. You hollo upwardly he "loves you"?

• No. He doesn't love you! Sister, no thing how much you lot hollo upwardly he loves you lot hither inwards this basis - he'll abhor you lot a 1 chiliad m times to a greater extent than on Judgment Day! He volition abhor you lot to a greater extent than than anyone else on the Day of Judgment! He volition blame you lot for the human relationship together with he volition inquire Allah to throw you lot into Hell-Fire, instead of him.
• You hollo upwardly you lot "love him"? No. You don't! You don't love him. You lust (desire) him together with wishing to influence his life together with role him for your ain desire. You volition also blame him together with inquire Allah to throw him inwards hell instead of you.

Yes, Allah (SWT) volition monastic state both of you lot to create upwardly one's heed that 1 of you lot volition acquire to hell (Jahannam) together with both of you lot volition endure against each other on the 24-hour interval of Judgment. Both of you lot volition endure blaming each other for your relationship. If you lot can’t endure together inwards life hereafter, what is the role of beingness together inwards this temporary life? Or you lot possess got forgot that you lot possess got a life waiting for you lot which volition endure forever together with this is temporary life together with a examination that is going to create upwardly one's heed the life of hereafter? If someone wishing to maintain relation inwards haram agency of class he/she don’t love you lot together with he/she is ruining your life futurity (Akhirah) which is for forever together with non for few years, if he/she loves you lot therefore acquire married together with maintain relation afterwards that inwards halal way.

Do you lot love his "sweet words"? Sister, those "sweet words" are the whispers of the devil himself. Or maybe you lot "love the agency other girls volition endure jealous of you"? Maybe you lot hollo upwardly he is a "real man" or because he seems "popular"? Influenza A virus subtype H5N1 existent human being doesn't convey wages of a girl, ruining her reputation inwards the community together with therefore moving on to the side past times side "special girl" to "love him".

Or he is "kind to you"?

How variety is it to ruin someone's life futurity (Akhirah)? And therefore allow them acquire to Hell?

Influenza A virus subtype H5N1 practiced Muslim immature lady alone loves the human being who volition convey to get married because of his commitment to Allah. The to a greater extent than he tries to serve Allah together with attention for his identify unit of measurement equally a practiced Muslim human being should according to Islam, therefore the to a greater extent than a practiced Muslim immature lady volition love her husband. That is a uncomplicated fact.

If he love Allah together with Islam why don’t he follow the agency Islam teaches to maintain relationship?

Tell your parents, you lot are laid upwardly for marriage. And endure real serious nearly going through what it takes to acquire married (soon) to the correct Muslim boy! Repent, provide to Allah together with never repeat same error again, Allah is most forgiving together with merciful. Try your best to follow path of Allah (Fard) together with Prophet Mohammad (peace endure upon him) (Sunnah).

Does he wishing to get married you? Really? So why doesn't he verbalise to your manly mortal nurture or wali, instead of talking to his buddies nearly how he's got this Muslim girlfriend?

Relationship inwards Islam?

• It's permitted. No occupation to endure inwards relation! Right afterwards a uncomplicated understanding is fulfilled - it's called MARRIAGE (Nikah). Marriage is alone the halal agency inwards Islam to endure inwards relation.

Now inquire yourself, "Do I love Allah?" Of class you lot do. But in that location are 2 types of love that cannot come upwardly together inwards the catch of a believer:

• LOVE of Allah, the Rabbil Alameen, Lord of the Worlds, Maliki Yawmadeen, Master of the Day of Judgment!
• Love of Haram.

SOME QUESTION TO ASK YOURSELF:

• Does he wishing practiced for you lot inwards this life? - Halal, faithful marriage? Maintain your virginity? Uphold your reputation? Care for your identify unit of measurement & parents?
• Does he really love you lot equally his Muslim sister? Would he allow his sis possess got a "boyfriend"? If he would, therefore he doesn't attention much nearly his sister, or fifty-fifty Islam on that matter. If he would non allow his sis to possess got a boyfriend, therefore what nearly his truthful feelings toward you?
• Does he wishing practiced for you lot inwards the Next Life? Would he acquire to Hell therefore he tin possess got pleasance past times using you lot inwards this temporary life?
• Does he wishing you lot amongst him inwards Jannah (heaven), approximately our Prophet, peace endure upon him, inwards the Next Life?
• Does he alone speak to you lot inwards front end of your wali (father, blood brother or guardian) beingness present?
• Is he mutaqqeen (truly righteous)? What nearly you? You said you lot know it is Haram, but you lot volition do it anyway? Is that righteous?- Read Surah Al Zukhruf, chapter 43, poesy 67 Allah Says, "Close friends, that Day, volition endure enemies to each other, except for the righteous"
• If you lot both actually love each other, therefore why you lot don't wishing to relieve each other from hellfire? Instead you lot are doing deed that volition brand you lot to shove each other into the Fire of Hell on the Judgment Day?
• If he loves you lot to a greater extent than than anyone inwards this universe, some fifty-fifty may state they love you lot to a greater extent than than Allah, the creator (Astagfirullah), therefore why he don’t he wishing you lot reckon (let you lot go) inwards Jannah (Heaven) together with why he don’t wishing to endure together inwards life hereafter?

Sister, wake up! STOP NOW - earlier it gets worse together with you lot can't stop. You tin nevertheless exit of this. Leave this HARAM agency - NOW! Leave it for Allah. Turn to Allah together with brand Tawbah (repentance) to Allah now! Allah volition grant (reward) you lot much to a greater extent than than what you lot volition surrender of this Haram.

But you lot possess got to endure potent inwards front end of shaytan (devil), potent against the shaytan's words together with shaytan feelings inwards both of you. Remember when 2 mortal are lonely the shaytan is the tertiary on acquaint there.

Make the commencement measuring - inquire Allah, "Guide me, Allah. Forgive me together with guide me to what is amend for me hither together with inwards the Hereafter, Ameen." Cry! You demand to. Cry more. You'll experience better.

MAHRAMS AND NON-MAHRAMS:

It is permissible for a adult woman to convey off her hijab inwards front end of her mahrams.

A woman’s mahram is a mortal whom she is never permitted to get married because of their closed blood human relationship (such equally her father, grandfather, great-grandfather, etc., together with her son, grandson, great-grandson, etc., her paternal together with maternal uncles, her brother, brother’s boy together with sister’s son), or because because of radaa’ah or breastfeeding (such equally the blood brother together with married adult man of the adult woman who breastfed her), or because they are related past times union (such equally the mother’s husband, the husband’s father, grandfather, etc., together with the husband’s son, grandson, etc.).

Except these everyone are Non-Maharam for adult woman fifty-fifty your cousin brothers, man child friends together with boyfriend.

“And tell the believing women to bring down [some] of their vision together with guard their individual parts together with non break their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof together with to twine [a portion of] their khumur over their juyub together with non break their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, [...]”

[An-Noor (The Light) (24:31)]

Believing women are commanded to do inwards front end of Non-Mahram:

1. Lower their gaze

2. Guard their individual parts
3. Not display their beauty together with ornaments except what (ordinarily) appears thereof
4. Take their khimar (head cover) together with encompass their thorax (and other previously exposed areas)
5. Not to display their beauty except to their Mahrams (husbands, their fathers…etc.)

IMPORTANT: You may reckon boys together with girls inwards colleges, parks, gardens together with other world places, you lot tin fifty-fifty reckon girls sitting inwards Naqab (Burkha) amongst boys together with hollo upwardly it’s normal to possess got boyfriend/girlfriend but it’s not. It is 1 of major sin inwards Islam afterwards shirk together with killing. We demand to brand aware of this to our Ummah together with halt this.

Just maxim I am Muslim together with maxim I love Allah together with his Prophet Mohammad (peace endure upon him) is non enough. If you lot actually love Allah together with his Prophet Mohammad (peace endure upon him) you lot should demo it practically. If you lot actually love Allah together with his Prophet Mohammad (peace endure upon him) no 1 demand to state you lot to possess got beard on your human face upwardly (for male) together with no 1 demand state to wearable naqaab (burkha) to relieve you lot from the optic of strangers (for female). If you lot actually love Allah together with his Prophet Mohammad (peace endure upon him) you lot volition endure interested to know if it is haram or halal earlier doing anything fifty-fifty earlier having boyfriend/girlfriend.

Think earlier its late, that do you lot actually love Allah together with his Prophet Mohammad (peace endure upon him) together with what is the proof that you lot actually do? How someone is going to believe you lot when you lot state I love Allah together with his Prophet Mohammad (peace endure upon him)?

SOME HADITH AND QURAN’S VERSES RELATED TO TOPIC:

 “…We proceeded until nosotros came across a hole inwards the basis that resembled a baking pit, narrow at the top together with broad at the bottom. Babbling together with voices were issuing from it. We looked inwards together with saw naked men together with women. Underneath the pit was a raging fire; whenever it flared up, the men together with women screamed together with rose amongst it until they almost brutal out of the pit. As it subsided, they returned (to the bottom). I said: ‘Who are these?’ They said: ‘…The naked men together with women who were inwards the pit, they are men together with women who indulge inwards Zina…” [Bukhari]

“Say to the believing men to lower their gazes together with guard their chastity… And state to the believing women to lower their gazes together with guard their chastity together with non to display their charms inwards public.” [An-Nur 24: 30-31]

“Jarir bin `Abdullah (May Allah endure pleased amongst him) said: I asked the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) nearly (the Islamic ruling on) accidental glance (i.e., at a adult woman 1 is non Islamically allowed to await at) together with he ordered me to plow my eyes away.” [Muslim]

If 1 all of a precipitous sees a adult woman who is non a Mahram, he must at in 1 trial plow away his glance from her. One should non gaze at her because therefore his intention is also included inwards his await which is a sin together with constitutes the fornication of the eye. Some religious scholars possess got also forbidden looking at beardless handsome boys inwards the same agency equally is the illustration amongst women whom 1 is non allowed to see.

Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri (May Allah endure pleased amongst him) said: “The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, "A human being must non await at a man's individual parts nor must a adult woman await at a woman's individual parts; neither should 2 men prevarication naked nether 1 cover, nor should 2 women prevarication naked nether the same cover.” [Muslim]

This Hadith tells us how Islam has closed all doors of immodesty together with obscenity. When Islam does non allow a human being to slumber without whatsoever clothe on amongst some other man, together with also does non permit a adult woman to slumber without whatsoever clothe on amongst some other woman, how tin it maybe allow the gents together with ladies mix freely? Free mixing of men together with women is a mutual evil inwards the West together with is similar a shot beingness projected through tv set inwards Muslim countries. May Allah guide Muslims to the Straight Path!

Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri (May Allah endure pleased amongst him) said: “The Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, "Avoid sitting on roadsides.'' His Companions said: "O Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam), in that location is no other option but to sit down in that location to talk.'' Thereupon the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, "If you lot possess got to sit down at all, therefore fulfill the rights of the road.'' They asked: "What are their rights?'' Thereupon he said, "Lowering the gaze (so that you lot may non stare at unlawful things); refraining from doing some terms to others, responding to greeting (i.e., maxim `Wa`alaikumus-salam' to 1 another) together with commanding the practiced together with forbidding the evil.” [Al-Bukhari together with Muslim]

Since roads, streets, lanes together with all thorough fares are the mutual belongings of public, it is unfair to role them for individual meetings together with gatherings because such assemblies create inconvenience for people, specially women, who hesitate appearing earlier men. But if for some unavoidable reasons, 1 has to sit down on them, therefore he should do such things in that location which should on the 1 side, relieve 1 from committing sins (like glazing at women who exceed from there), together with on the other, 1 should convey attention of Earth welfare together with brand role of his presence for preaching religion.

Allah, the Exalted, says:

"Verily, the hearing, together with the sight, together with the heart, of each of those ones volition endure questioned (by Allah).'' (17:36)

"Allah knows the fraud of the eyes, together with all that the breasts conceal.'' (40:19)

"Verily, your Rubb is Ever Watchful (over them).'' (89:14)

ALLAH KNOWS THE BEST

SOCIAL ASPECT: (Can endure shared amongst Non-Muslims)

Sisters, in that location are to a greater extent than oft than non iii mortal inwards your life who volition endure practiced to you lot together with ever hollo upwardly practiced for you. They are:

• Father
• Mother
• Brother

If something is in that location you lot are non able to portion amongst anyone of them you lot are most belike inwards the danger zone (haram) non alone inwards illustration of boyfriend, it is applicable inwards whatsoever case. No parents wishing their immature lady to alive hard life, they volition abide by perfect married adult man for you. You don’t demand to combat for it. They are sending you lot to schools, colleges together with institutes give you lot instruction therefore that it would endure tardily for them to abide by a successful together with perfect married adult man for you, of class non for finding a fellow or married adult man for yourself.

• If something goes incorrect amongst your fellow whom you lot are going to talk, to complain? No 1 except your friends together with if he leaves you lot it would fun for your friends nearly you lot together with your grapheme together with fifty-fifty some people may brand fun of your parents, tin you lot forgive yourself if someone points fingers toward you lot parents together with identify unit of measurement because of you?
• If it is amongst married adult man everyone is in that location amongst you lot your parents, identify unit of measurement together with gild too.
• Nowadays, in that location are many cases that when girls together with boys are inwards relation they convey photos, videos together together with afterwards breakup or if they are married to some else, these videos together with photos are used for blackmailing. Many cases are in that location that these photos together with videos has been uploaded on meshing together with has been argue for suicide (Suicide is also 1 on Haram deed inwards Islam together with mortal who drive his/her life to devastation past times him/herself volition endure inwards Hell forever). Do you lot hollo upwardly it would endure acceptable for your parents, identify unit of measurement or married adult man that you lot possess got been inwards a undercover relation?

Do you lot hollo upwardly you lot are lonely together with your life doesn’t hateful anything to anyone inwards this world? Do you lot hollo upwardly no 1 cares whatever you lot do? Do you lot hollo upwardly you lot are gratis together with nil volition brand departure if you lot do incorrect or right? Do you lot hollo upwardly your parents are rude because they don’t allow you lot to exit together with possess got fun amongst friends?

• You are incorrect your parents are working whole 24-hour interval together with dark merely to reckon you lot happy together with to fulfil your demands, they are ever amongst you lot together with whatever they are doing is for you lot merely they cannot sit down amongst you lot together with verbalise whole 24-hour interval because they are working merely to reckon you lot happy. Of class it makes departure to your parents that what you lot do, it matters to your parents what you lot are doing is incorrect or right, no you lot are non gratis to do anything correct or wrong, if you lot do correct people may non notice but if you lot do together with it’s incorrect they are going to convey each together with every betoken together with blame you lot together with betoken finger toward your parents that you lot are their daughter, toward your blood brother that he that you lot are his sister, toward your identify unit of measurement that they are non able to command together with convey attention of you. Of class no parents similar to endure rude to their children together with they wishing to reckon you lot happy every moment, they wishing to convey attention of you lot from beingness blamed together with wishing to convey attention of their together with your prestige inwards the society.

IMPORTANT: Many of us brand excuse that nosotros don’t possess got cognition of Islam together with hadith, maxim this inwards 21^st century won’t brand whatsoever sense merely opened upwardly google.com together with type your occupation together with striking travel inwards the solution volition endure inwards front end of you. Don’t larn to misuse technology scientific discipline it tin endure inwards correct agency too.

Remember, "Never hold back for tomorrow to laid upwardly what you lot are doing today! Tomorrow may never come!"

JAZAKALLAH KHAIR!!